By MARSHA MERCER
Over brunch last weekend, nobody mentioned the political dysfunction
in the nation’s capital, the jumpy stock market or the preposterous idea of turning
schools into armed camps.
Everybody needed a dose of holiday goodwill.
Our lively conversation ranged from the Olympian who
moonlighted as a high-rent call girl to questions of grammar. I know which topic
interests you most, so I’ll go straight to pronouns.
No? OK, we’ll detour to track star Suzy Favor Hamilton, the
44-year-old wife and mom who led a secret life as a $600-an-hour escort for a
year. She played by her own rules.
“I am not a victim here and knew what I was doing,” she
tweeted.
I hope she can beat the depression she says prompted her
risky behavior. Let’s leave her story there, although I expect news soon of a big,
fat book contract and made-for-TV movie.
Nobody yet has discovered how to make grammar rules sexy and
lucrative, but a lot of people care about how we use language, I learned this
year.
In April, I wrote about the tweet from the Associated Press
Stylebook announcing this update: “We now support modern usage of hopefully: it’s
hoped, we hope.”
Granted, this wasn’t an earth-shattering event, but I was disappointed
the self-styled “journalist’s bible” caved to popular misuse. Wrong is wrong. Emails
started arriving from readers who shared my chagrin.
“I bemoaned your news that the wrong use of hopefully is now
accepted,” Susie in Richmond, Va., wrote. “I feel betrayed.”
And Susie pleaded, “Please tell me that pronoun abuse is
still a no no!” She couldn’t bring herself to write “between you and I” even as
an example.
Well, Susie, “between you and me” is still correct, but
people often make the “I” mistake. Even President Obama occasionally slips and
says, “between Michelle and I.”
For a “recovering English major” named Dan, the line in the
sand is using “none” as a plural subject. It’s correct to say “none of the students uses
this form correctly.” Many people incorrectly think “students” is the subject
and say, “None of the students use this form correctly.” No.
Other grammar sticklers weighed
in on dangling modifiers and the confusion between it’s and its, they’re, there
and their and you’re and your.
If worries about grammar seem out-dated in a world of 140-character
tweets, consider Kyle Weins, CEO of iFixIt, an online repair company in
California. Weins wrote a blog post in August for the Harvard Business Review titled
“I Won’t Hire People Who Use Poor Grammar. Here’s Why.”
“If you think an apostrophe was one of the 12 disciples of
Jesus, you will never work for me. If you think a semicolon is a regular colon
with an identity crisis, I will not hire you,” wrote Weins, who requires all job
applicants to take a grammar test.
Weins is no fossil. He and a friend formed iFixit in their
college dorm room in 2003.
“Good grammar is credibility, especially on the internet. In
blog posts, on Facebook statuses, in emails, and on company websites, your
words are all you have,” Weins wrote.
Yes, but should standards be, well, flexible? E.B. White,
the English usage guru, wrote in The New Yorker in 1937, “Usage seems to us
peculiarly a matter of ear. Everyone has his own prejudices, his own set of
rules, his own list of horribles.”
Did you notice anything about that last sentence? White correctly
used “his” three times. “Everyone” takes a singular pronoun. He didn’t even
think of using “their.”
At brunch, two men insisted that they use the gender-neutral
pronoun intentionally out of respect to women. They know and deliberately break
the rule to emphasize equality and inclusiveness.
Thank you, but for me that’s an unwanted present. Hearing someone
say “their” instead of “his” or the clunky “his or her” doesn’t warm my heart;
it makes me cringe.
Times and language do change, however. Sensitivity in how we
talk to each other is important, especially now, and I know other women do appreciate
the gesture.
Here’s more wisdom from E.B. White: “English usage is
sometimes more than mere taste, judgment, and education – sometimes it’s sheer
luck, like getting across the street.”
Here’s to luck getting across the grammar street in 2013.
© 2012 Marsha Mercer. All rights reserved.
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